I grew up playing softball, and as a pitcher, I learned from a young age that I'm always focused on the next pitch.
Just gave up a home run
"Okay, next pitch"
Walked a batter to load the bases
"Okay, next pitch."
The umpire missed a call that should have been strike 3
"Okay, next pitch."
I've taken this positive, forward-thinking mentality into life. I have an all-out refusal to focus on negative things I cannot change. This practice of optimism and forward-thinking has often kept me grounded. However, applying an "okay next pitch" mentality to traumatic experiences can be harmful. I've found myself feeling a bit of a funk and realized I "okay next pitch" 'ed our basement flooding and having to move abruptly. I "okay next pitch" 'ed having my second daughter on vacation in Puerto Rico, always focusing on the next step and missing opportunities to be present and aware of myself and my feelings. This mindset kept me in my head, and I haven't been grounded.
This isn't a post to give you the answers to change this mindset, but more so to make you aware that you may think this way. I encourage you to check how you handle conflicts, how you overlook trauma, and the impact on your life.
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